These Conversations Are Hard!

These Conversations Are Hard!

We wanted to take a minute and acknowledge how hard these ten core conversations are. While we know these are crucial areas to explore a partner you see a future with…that doesn’t mean these talks are going to feel easy.  So if you are feeling slightly intimidated or hesitant to dive in to some of these topics, know you are not alone AND there are probably some good reasons for that...

  • It Hasn’t Gone Well In the Past. Many folks avoid these core conversations because in the past when they’ve tried to bring it up…it has turned into a raging dumpster fire pretty quickly. So nerves around bringing it up again are really understandable. That’s why we show you exactly what to talk about so you have the best chances of having productive and meaningful convos. 
  • Your Attachment Styles Are Activated. Everyone has an attachment style, and if you are like most of the population on earth, your attachment style isn’t always helpful in communicating what you feel/need/are thinking, etc. Attachment styles are fancy ways of explaining why we communicate the way we do (some of us shut down, some of us get anxious, some of us feel overwhelmed, some of us find it hard to trust, etc. etc.). These styles are often activated or triggered during conflict or stressful situations which may be why these topics have been hard to talk about. Never fear! That’s why we have coping skills and resources in each core topic section. 
  • Trauma. While exploring these core conversations, unresolved trauma or trauma you may have been working on / processing / healing from may be triggered. That is okay AND be prepared for that. Talk about with your partner what to do in the event of that happening (take breaks, skip the section, come back to it later, bring it up in individual or couples therapy, etc.) It may even be helpful for you to skim the coping skills we have in each core conversation before starting the conversation themselves. 


If any part of your relationship feels unsafe right now (emotionally, mentally, verbally, physically or sexually) do not do this course. This course is meant to create opportunities for vulnerability, empathy and connection. None of those things are possible if your relationship lacks safety in any way. Being vulnerable or trying to have difficult conversations in unsafe relationships  can actually make unsafe situations even more unsafe or abusive. RAIN # hotline here. 

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